Has anyone actually stopped?

Hey, sorry I’m new to this. This is the first time I have ever wrote in a forum. I haven’t read all the posts yet but I wondered if there is anyone out there who has actually stopped picking? I pick my eyebrows and eyelashes nearly every other day and I have done ever since I was young, I would say around 12/13 and I’m now 35. Today I had a really bad day and have a massive gap on my left eye. I’m now wide awake not being able to sleep wondering if they will grow back this time or not! I am also feeling like I’ve done something to hurt myself, I sometimes feel like it’s self harm in a way (of course I know it’s not). I know it’s bad when I’m doing it and I know how horrible it will be after I’ve done it but for some reason I can’t stop. Thank you.


  • Hi AT and welcome,

    You've definitely come to the right place, and yes there are members and coaches that have stopped. I'm currently 37, and like you, have pulled since age 11 on my lashes. I managed 70 odd days being pull free when I first started coaching, and yes, I've slipped up many yes, but with the support on here and through the coaching.care page, I will not give up. Maybe have a look at the thread I set up on here, titled 'how are you feeling?' it'll give you some other people's stories on there as well. We can all do this, and so can you.

    Lots of love and kindness being sent your way xxx
  • Hi AT,
    I just want to encourage you because you said you wondered if they would grow back "this time." So, I am 43 and have pulled since 10. I am currently still able to grow all of my eyebrows and eyelashes back after a relapse, even now, after pulling over 33 years to complete baldness on my eyelids and brows. There doesn't seem to be any permanent damage other than maybe a little light in certain spots. They all fill in within about 4-6 months of not pulling. It is SO worth the effort, it feels amazing. Even if I relapse again, I know I can stop again and get complete regrowth. I'm not giving up anytime soon. I will keep fighting.
    Glad you are here.

  • Heather I love your comment "keep fighting". Such good advice! I've been pulling for about 37 years now and I figured since I'm 50 now, it's time for a change.
    I just started reading this forum and noticed when I read and write posts, I don't pull ☺️
    I'm ready to tackle this thing head on. I know I will have slip-ups but I'm going to keep fighting through them and today will be my Day One!! Who's with me?!?
    Best wishes to all and keep sharing your stories. They are so helpful.
    Take Care fellow Pullers 💪💪
  • Best of luck SleepySloth, it's never too late. Don't let those slip ups get you down. Learn anything you can from them and then move on. We're all behind you, cheering you on <3

  • Yes sometimes I am able to stop for periods of time and then start again
  • Hey there Amanda Lee,

    I'm 58 and I've been pull free since 2001. Michelle and Heather are also pull free, so yes, we CAN stop. It isn't always easy to stop, but it is sometimes easy, and that is what to hold on to.

    You are appreciated and supported here. Come on! Post how you are doing and keep updating. Yes, there might be setbacks, but its not how often you fall, it's how often you get back up!

    The real blessing is that you know what to do and how to do it, the skill now is in listening to that part of yourself and taking continual action FOR yourself.

    Love and pull freedom

  • Hello all,

    So great to see you all posting especially when there's so much understanding from everyone in this community. It warms my heart!

    Stopping seems further away than it really is. The way to get there? Willpower!! It definitely isn't an easy journey, but very worth while.

    I'm mainly a scalp puller - or maybe should even say was a puller - I've decided that looking back at lockdown I'm going to want to have positive memories. So I began coaching and even earned TrichStar status. I am very driven and working hard to keep focus on my FREEDOM. It feels so so good. Honestly.

    Was it easy? No. Every day at first was a burden to fight, then it DID GET EASIER, I still struggle to fight my urges some days, but knowing I'm accountable and have a daily report to complete helps me get through it a lot! And so I've been coming along reporting zero for hair pulling day after day. Coaching has been the catalyst in getting me this far - 167 days and counting. I am tremendously thankful to @Neo, @Michelle Harper, @Lisa A, @Gir and everyone else who gets on here to share their inspiration. Knowing I am alone in fighting gives me power - It shows me if they try and can, I CAN too! And so CAN YOU!!

    My best wishes to all of you trying. "Believe you CAN and you WILL."
    Sending love and PF vibes, xxxx
    <3 Joy

  • You can do this! How are you getting on?

    Love and pull freedom

  • Aaaw, your message warms my heart, @Joy - keep going - so very proud of you!

    @AT, I hope you are still here and listening because we all know you can do this and the only person who doubts it, is YOU.

    Resist one urge in one moment, and go from there.

    Love and pull freedom

  • Hi everyone, thanks for your comments! I think I need to come on here more often. I tried hypnotherapy, and it didn’t help. That was a waste of money. I think coming on here and reading the comments and everyone’s stories definitely help. I had a bad day with it today again :( and I also find it really hard to speak to people about it because I don’t understand it and they don’t understand it. Even the hypnotherapist asked me ‘but why do you do it? And doesn’t it hurt?’ I always think those two questions are the worst! I didn’t go back after that. She made me feel like I was doing something disgusting.

    I hope everyone is doing ok. Thanks again! Xx
  • Hi AT, I'm sorry you had that experience with the hypnotherapist. That's probably why it wasn't effective - the therapist didn't understand tric! The reason you pull is because you have trichotillomania. That's it really!

    How are you getting on at the moment?

  • Hi
    Yeah I am the one who stopped pulling. I took me 7 or 8 years thou.
  • I stopped in 2001 - if I can do it, anyone can!

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