Being Realistically Kind to Yourself

There is no need to expect yourself to be your best self all the time.  This is not to say that you get to make excuses for your past mistakes, whether they were deliberate or accidental mistakes.  Instead, you begin on the path towards forgiving yourself for making them. 

You might begin by saying “I am learning self-forgiveness”.

Perhaps there is a place in your body clenched and storing feelings of anger, shame or guilt?  Notice where your attention is drawn to, within your body.   Perhaps move your attention into this area of your body or gently become aware of a realisation that it is natural and human to make mistakes –

What if life is like a school? What if your moments of suffering are the lessons?  Maybe there were reasons or difficulties you faced?  Maybe, just like other normal people, you have issues with behavioural control? How did you develop these traits?  Could some of your ancestors have been emotionally reactive? Did your past negative experiences cause you to feel distress, and did that distress cause your negative reactions? 

Every one of us can name a million mistakes we made and people we hurt. We did the best we could with the knowledge and pain we felt at the time.  Every day we learn a little better.

Ask for help from your Higher Self to be more self-nurturing.  This is a process, a path we continue along.  We will not arrive at destination self-nurture, instead, in each moment, we can ask ourselves to nurture more and criticise less.  We are in school and that’s great.